Build a Community

Psychologists say that as human beings we all want to feel like we belong to something or someone. It is human nature to feel we belong to and are wanted by the group of people we associate with. We need a culture or community that gives us a sense of connection and feeling of being wanted and accepted. 

However, sometimes people hang on to beliefs and practices that don’t work for them, simply because they want to belong. At other times, they get to a place in their lives where they want to break free from the practices and beliefs that aren’t working for them. 

Let me tell you, no matter what your beliefs are, or how different they may be from the people you were raised with, you can always create a community with people who share your beliefs and values. Just because a certain kind of community system didn’t work for you doesn’t mean you should totally give up on building a community for yourself. 

There are many benefits to having a community. A community can help us feel we belong. It can give us a sense of validation and acceptance. No matter where we are in our lives, we can create a community of like-minded people. When people who share the same beliefs and values come together to form a community, they can create stronger connections and sharing for everyone.
We can form communities in our personal lives as well as in our business lives. We can decide to only do business with people who share our beliefs and values instead of with corporations that don’t share our values. 

When building a community for yourself, do not forget that there is no community without vulnerability. If you cannot open your heart and be vulnerable with people in your community, then it is not a community. It may provide you with a temporary sense of connection, but it will never bring you the deeper connection you are looking for. 

I encourage you to take a look at your life and see if you are surrounded with supportive and like-minded people with whom you can open your heart and be vulnerable. If not, then ask yourself what you can do to form a community of like-minded people. I would encourage you to first make a list of what your values and beliefs are and then look around to see who you know that shares your values or beliefs. Contact that person or organization and tell them you are working on forming a community of like-minded people and ask them if they would like to join you. 

Don’t isolate yourself. Form a community of like-minded people and the rewards will be endless.

Zahra Efan is a Life and Success Coach who specializes in helping women achieve their dreams. To book a complimentary coaching session give Zahra a call at 604.582.7759 or visit our web at

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