Being Vulnerable is Being Strong

While teaching a workshop last week, on the topic of Be the Success you want to Create, I had a beautiful woman attend the workshop who is going through transition and evaluating her life choices. When we made the list of qualities she would like to develop in herself, what came up for her was strong and confident.

When we dug deeper, I realized that the quality she needed to develop most was that of vulnerability so that she could ask others for help and support.

Often women become strong and confident at the expense of their vulnerable self. Although it is wonderful to be strong and confident, if it means doing everything alone because we don’t want to risk being vulnerable, then we need to ask ourselves where that belief originated.

As women, we carry the attitude of doing it alone into our businesses as well. We often don’t hire an assistant and do all of the tasks ourselves. Or we may not hire help with housework and continue to take on business and personal responsibilities without support always increasing our own workload.

Frequently it requires more strength and courage to ask for help than it does to do it alone. When my clients first start working with me, they experience the value of being vulnerable and receiving support from a coach and that experience allows them to create a system of support in the outside world.

Remember, if you cannot be weak you also cannot be strong. Strength that is based on not wanting to be appear weak is not authentic strength. It is a cover for the fear that if we ask for help we won’t receive it. To be authentically strong, sometimes we need  break down before we can build ourselves up.

Ask at the risk of receiving.


Zahra is a Professional Coach and Abundance Expert. She works with female creative entrepreneurs to help them market their businesses by taking internally inspired actions. Zahra helps women connect with their inner abundance to create outer results. Zahra believes that women, through their feminine essence, can be truly successful in life and business. Using the principles of Law of Attraction, Zahra teaches women how to get in touch with their passionate inner feminine wisdom and create effortlessly abundant lives. To watch Zahra speak about 'the power of gratitude,' visit To book a complimentary coaching session give Zahra a call at 604.582.7759 or visit our web at

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